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6/26/2009 Michael Jackson has died... Have just heard the news ...
I grew up with bro no 1 listening to him constantantly, he will live with alot of us forever...in memory, in his music, dance and the moves he had alot of us trying to do has kids .
REST IN PEACE...FOREVER THE KING OF POP !!
UPDATE-
After just watching Skynews, hard to believe he is dead, very sad and all i can say is..
The USA must be has devasted has i am sat here right now, by the morning the whole world will be in mourning for the king of pop, Short and.........It's getting late
 Just dropping a quick blog by let you know what i have been up to!
Bro no 3 has moved in, apparantly for 2 weeks although may not be here for that long
 Never mind his presence is keeping pravoking neighbour inside her home literally (she moves up the road on 16th july) :-DRemember that extra hard drive i had put in?..Had to re-boot it from disk!
Morale of above is...DON'T load ANY programmes onto hardrive BEFORE you have the windows service packs, has you will find that when service pack 1 turns up 3 weeks late has an update, you can try over 30 times to install (i did) it WILL NOT install and without service pack 1 you cannot install service pack 2!
Been up to see mum, once on saturday with the girls and again wednesday, Mum is doing good although her leg she still drags, i noticed it more on wednesday than i have the last time i saw her. I bought some new stuff ...for the house and the girls
Weeellll i did have my new patio furniture last month so only fair eh!
Sent off my coursework to be marked tuesday, fingers crossed i not naffed it up,!
Ooooo i have spoilt myself AGAIN today, via ordering some new design software...apparently should be here in the morning but won't hold my breath!
Apart from the above have been enjoying the quiet peceful day in the lovely sun whilst the girls have been at school (enjoying every minute whilst i still have it, another 3 weeks the girls are off school for 7 weeks DAM SHOCKING!!) When the girls are home after school we have been enjoying tea partys in the garden, playing games together, taking lots of photos (upload them tomorrow am knackered right now) Been on long walks with solitaire, who has played on the beach for the 1st time,...the sea she thought twice about. The girls love walking Solitaire although not sure they will in the winter months!
Bro no 2 has got me back plugged into my xbox 360 in the short space of 4 days he has been here, am just off to renew the membership, infact have xbox.com open in another tab ready to get hooked once again in the morning once renewed that is! (Blame him lol)
Will be logged into my little place right here on 'lost in spaces' catching up with you guys at the same time though, has desktop is right next to the 360....perfect setup i would say :-)
Ya'll take care, hope the rest of your week is full of sunshine. Night for those going and for those staying have a lovely evening, night for when that time reaches you.
 A photo of middle one and solitaire.- The little girl who 4 months ago was so scared of dogs she would go in the road to avoid them, has become near inseprable from her best friend.
6/20/2009 Just helping him out...Bro No 3 that is...
For those of you who donot know who bro no 3 possibly is, he is the one who is living (or was untill lastnight) with bro no 2's girlfriend, in bro no 2's girlfriends mum's house has a tenant, (Bro no 2 and his sidekick g/friend caused alot of rows when mum had her stroke, rows that bro no 3 stayed out of, he went up to visit her a few times at the hospital but kept out of the rows that accumilated over the weeks to follow. He has a girlfriend, her mum is private tutor to older one and at the momment and is living up the hill from me with her parents.
So now you know
 About a week ago bro no 3 came round to explain to me why he hasn't had time to come around and see the girls...he has been on graveyard shifts, and asleep all day.
After he tells me that he is planning on moving out from under bro no 2's girlfriends mums house and into a flat of his own he asks me if he can stop at mine for a few weeks. Now last time i had him here for 5 days he ate all in the cupboards, his girlfriend has ...lets say strange eating tastes, like eats a pack of bacon, with no bread! Gets bro no 3 to take her pastry from around her pie so she can eat the meat, and believe me there is worse from when they both lived at my dad's house.
I hummed and erred
and asked questions..like why??
Seems bro no 3 is charged £80 per week to live above bro no 2's girlfriend (it is 1 house but seperated into 2 flats)
He then has to pay electric and gas ontop (don't we all)
Has to buy food ontop of that (has we all do)
And then is charged an extra £30 per week from bro no 2's girlfriend for the privlidge of using her cooker and washing machine...(Shouldn't that be in with the electric and gas bill or in with the rent)
Anyways..
Bro no 3 and his girlfriend cannot save up for a deposit for a flat (which they will be sharing with their 2 friends) whilst payng out all the above.The flat the friends b/friend has seen has now got a secure deposit on it, they all (4 of them) have to come up with the months rent in arrears and the month in advance, then bro no 3 and his girlfriend will be living in the same village has me, not on the doorstep but close enough.
So from the morning (Saturday which is near enough today) i will have bro no 3 living with me, the girls do not know yet has i thought i best to make 100% sure he was before saying anything, tbh, will be a nice surprise for them. Am not sure how he is going to manage getting himself to work each day which is across a ferry, and then 2 buses, or across the ferry and a mate he works with picks him up the otherside but will see how that goes.
PS-If i am not online AT ALL in the next 2 weeks it will be because bro no 3 has eaten my net connection (which i only changed ISP yesterday) via the XBOX 360 and i cannot get online till he has gone to work....With only 1 ferry working at the momment am not sure work is part of his plan.
Take care ya'll
6/16/2009 Windows parental controls are bloody good to a point!...After having a long discussion with the girls after school on Wednesday, one which was internet related and ended in ''why'', i sat pondering once they had gone to bed on that ''why''. Has a parent with small children who are being introduced to the internet from the day they start school, why is a good question..although has a parent i worry that one of the girls is playing the bratz games and clicks on a advert or miss-spells a word in the search and it comes up with things that are not for little peoples knowing. The girls have been supervised over messenger when chatting to my family members for months on my account, ...Whilst they do that it means i cannot sit here on spaces, or chat on messenger with my friends, or has as happened in the past, one the girls unintentionally sending an IM to one of my friends <<---Another reason why i add NO ONE to my messenger i do not know in the real world!
Questions they asked, (or a few of them i remember)
1-We go on the internet at school
my answer- the school are monitoring what you can view and what you cannot..
2)- Why?
my answer- There is alot of bad people use the internet to hurt little people like you 3..
Older ones answer- Haaa like we hear about on the news and tv.. (cue discussion about bad people)..
3)- We only want to play games on the internet
my answer- well yes, no harm in that so long has that is all.. (cue another discussion)
4)-So why can we not have our own computer so we can go on the internet?
my answer- Because the net is a dangerous world.
WHY??
my answer- Too many bad people
5)-If you watch us on the computer like the teachers do at school can we go on the internet?
NO!...(CUE tears, cue WHY.. cue family safety protection download thought, cue the girls got a new computer hooked up to the net)...
So onto this Family safety...
I downloads the above, does has it says and logs in on the girls computer with my windows live ID has the parent of the account.
DILEMA-
The girls have no windows live ID!
The girls have no e-mail adresss!
Cannot add them onto my parent account i just created !
Cannot monitor each child individualy!..
After much thought on thursday into thursday evening, many talks on the phone.
CONCLUSION-
Set each child a windows live ID up to enable me, has the parent on the account to monitor each child's prints across the internet individually...Add their windows live ID accounts to my parent account, sort out the 'what they can view and cannot view across the net, enter into the search type box ANY words not for little ones seeing, or parent doesn't want child to view, ... click save!
GOOD POINT-
One word blocks all sites across the net with that word in the http address. EG- dog, would block 'hotdog', teach your dog new tricks' ..you get the message...
The family saftey doesn't just block these sites, but also blocks the girls TOTALLY from the internet unless i have logged in first into the parent account!
The girls are always crytising how my little place (which i love) has not changed much for awhile...some of you out there would probably agree with them
You CANNOT mail them to tell them ''well done, and you agree ''
 The family settings and permissions right here on spaces doesn't allow you to unless me, myself, and i personally change that...Which deffinatly am not!Friday evening, saturday, sunday through to sunday evening the girls spent making their live space, their own little home, just for them, all girly by going through 'glitter me' sites, myspace graphics, pimp my profile, and LOTS more, i decided to stick with tinypic it was way way easyier. So with all the girls with their new little places all of their own, tightly locked up via the permissions here on live space and the family saftey controls i went to adding family members to their network..
and couldn't!
The family saftey settings had live space so locked nothing was getting through it, including being logged in on the parent account and adding live.com and spaces to the allow list. Hmmm! Are live.com saying that their own site has restricted content via their own family saftey, and if so then why are live.com not doing anything about it!!
Now unable to add family members to the girls accounts i went plodding through settings, help contents, and permissions,...even has the parent logged into the parent account i could not change the settings. Only way was to unblock all whilst i added family members onto the girls places then lock it back up again.
It wouldn't let me!
After logging in on one computer on my own live space, adding the girls e-mail address and re-doing permissions, still nothing would budge. The settings was stuck on blocked, made more phone calls this morning, and ended up uninstalling windows live family safety controls...
Why?...i am so starting to hate that word)
1) Windows Family Saftey Controls only works in vista!
2) The permissions on live space are enoough to stop anyone adding the girls, sending them private messages ect, also enough for me to block my updates to their spaces. The individual spaces i can check before i log them into their own accounts via my computer right here, and delete any junk that may of found its way there. (Which is near impossible) !
3) I wanted something that would block explicit content from the girls whilst they still had the ability to enjoy being a part of Windows live and connecting with family members when they wanted to instead of it being when i had finished what i was doing...to then getting my computer back hours later, and with a fight.
END RESULT-
FoxFilter!. The girls are not at an age where they are curiouse of what any word means, so wouldn't search them out anyway. However Windows Live Family Saftey control is something deffinatly for a parent with a 10 year old + who may be at that wondering stage and searching for more adult themed one word content across the web.
***NOTE TO SELF*** Save up for vista upgrade computer for the girls within 14 months!!
6/10/2009 Reshuffle in my mind- On the View of lifeI am not a christian, a Catholic, or any other faith that is out there, i have my views, my opinions, and in my mind the way i see the world or my belief of the world we live in.
My mum was brought up with religion, every Sunday church, every evening the bible. She didn't have a childhood, her childhood was religion.
My dad was not brought up with religion, he saw the good and bad in the world from a teenagar starting with his own dad dieing, did the lad stuff,- crashing cars, joining up, going AWOL and getting locked up in Colchester nick for doing it, fighting and the list goes on....The total opposite to my mum.
Has children we had a choice!- We went to sunday school i think i went maybe twice, we either carryed it on...or we didn't, it was not forced upon us, and noway would a Bible be in any part of the home, apart from the little one my mum had (still has) from her childhood.
My dad brought me up to have respect for myself and others, to have morals, views, and my own individual opinion, To be the first to appologize if i stood corrected, He taught me that in life you earn a place, nothing is 'free', the world is not a fairy tale with a magical storyline and a happy ending... that is called fiction.
To accept help if it is offered and appreciate others, . Most of all to never judge, rather be in the full knowledge before becoming judgmental...Nothing to do with any religion, the bilble, or any faith. That was how i was brought up, !
I bring the 3 girls up on the same disipline has above, Only the disipline is not has strict, has this is 2009 not 1980 where back then smacking a child was just that, a smack!
I do not deprive the girls of religion..their childhood beliefs of 'fairys down the bottom of the garden' and the 'tooth fairy' 'santa clause' still excist in their minds. If the vicar from the local church has been into a school assembly i will sit and listen to the girls has they tell me how 'God did this..and God did that'...I let them go to the church services at xmas time and have the belief of 'baby jesus' - Why? Because THEY ask to do that, and THEY ask if THEY can go to the xmas church services,...who am i to deny them that choice??, After all i was given that very same choice has a child too, i choose to not go back!
My mum when she got home from having her stroke back in March, said something after her physio appointment to me over the phone, She said 'Thank God he was there, has today i saw a man who could not speak, i saw 3 women who had lost use of limbs totally, God was looking down on me the day i had my stroke'...Me not believing the mumbojumbo of God heals, replyied with 'Mum, it had nothing to do with him up there or wherever he apparently lives, it was just a warning to you to take your tablets and eat, your own body telling you to take more dam care of yourself'...
God never came up in conversations again after that day!
4 days ago the lady from up the road came around with the 'AWAKE' mags, she drops them around for the girls, they just read the little stories in them and think the pictures are lovely. The ladys daughter was a friend of the familys, i would go around for coffee, sit having a chin wag, her and her children and myself and the girls would go the movies together. She once had the girls when i had a fit, we helped each other in so many ways. All that stopped a year ago just over when at 32 years of age that family friend died suddenly.
Yesterday a man comes to my door, he is again part of the church, on previouse visits i would groan and reply to anything he said with a 'Hmmm'! has he would tell me 'Christ is watching all of us' I would sigh a BIG sigh of relief when he said 'Thank you i will leave you with...<insert quote> from Mathew 1:13 or whatever.
 Something yesterday changed my view...NOOOOooo i have not gone all religious, neither will i be attending church services at 1900 or setting the alarm for sundays either!
When the man got into conversation over a story in the book he was holding on how our place is booked either in heaven or hell, it is how we choose the paths in life which determines if God changes our booking...it made me stand and think, think of what my mum had said that day over the phone to me, and before i knew it i was engaging a conversation with the man.
Turns out that the AWAKE magazines (i cannot remember what religion he said they are a part of) however they are people who do not believe in blood transfusion and the such...i stood thinking of my friend the ladys daughter who had suddenly died. Had she given up her own life for the religion she was brought up with?...
We went onto talk about health and how in the bible there is a story about a man in good health, and a man who had sores, cuts ect, a dog would lick the sores and cuts to heal them the man with good health called his dog off and insulted the unhealthy man, story goes on that the man was healed of his sores...Has time went on the now healed man came across the man who had called his dog off, the man was in trouble and was asking for help...of which the now healed man replyied back with 'why should i help you, you don't believe that a gods animal can heal, so you do not believe in God himself' ...Had my mum been healed because she believes??
My view to a degree has changed, i carried on with the conversation to the man, when he asked me 'How do you see it all when i say the word God'?.. i replyied has a DVD, someone years, years, back further than any of us remember suddenly got bored one day and etched in pictures a story of a person on a rock, (cavemen) someone else came by years later when pencil and paper was around, saw the pictures and wrote it down onto paper naming that 'someone' in those pictures etched on rocks God, this then, along time was made into a Bible, and has years went on again someone else added photos, drawings to make the Bible appeal to young children. But mainly i see it has some film maker made that bible into a DVD has books are no longer appealing now technology has advanced to DVD's and computers...
I have right here a book, the title is 'The man behind the millennium', i have not read any of it yet, but flicking through it the pictures are a true insight, This is the first book i have ever accepted from anyone with any belief for my own personal reading!...Don't think it will change my views, change me into a 'God beliver', but i will look at it.
Why not change my views and believe in god?
Where was God when my parents lost a daughter?
Where was god when i lost unborn children?
Where was god when older one was born with a sub-mucas cleft palette?
Where is God to give her proper speech?
Where is God to stop my epelepsy so i can have the normal life i once had?
Where was God when i have lost friends close to me ?
Has i type this something crosses my mind...'Somebody' was there when i had little one 3 half months early, has dispite all problems she had for the first 2 years of life, she is today a healthy cheeky 5 year old!...My dad after his triple heart bypass was told the operation is only good for 10 years, that was 12half years ago approx!
Hmmm! Maybe there is 'someone' out there, up there after all it just takes one person or something in life to happen for you to believe alittle of it could be true, for your views on life to change. My views have got mr wondering!
6/7/2009 Expirement-ion on my new harddriveDue to recent computer craziness of my C:Drive deciding to go into the red for the second time in less than a week, it was time to ask that guy (who i better not say via name) to come and help. On Thursday he did just that!
Armed with his tools and 250GB hardrive to install i left him to set to work whilst i sat enjoying the sun with a brew...
I decided that i was going to find out what exactlly was eating my hardrive..The microsoft updates?..music..photos..design software?. It had to be one of them...or all.
So the guy did away with my D:Drive and extended my C:Drive then added the new harddrive.
This is what i found...
The picture below shows only vista installed on the 250GB harddrive.... (Drive E), Which starts with 177 GB free, am working this out at 250GB-177GB of free space left = 73GB taken up via Vista. ...right calculations or not?
 I then spent the rest of thursday late evening and all of friday when i got back home installing Microsofts updates... LOTS of updates!
 'Think' i am correct in saying that after the updates Drive E (the new harddrive) has 172GB of free space left, so the Microsoft Updates actually only take 5GB...
I then went on to spend friday evening till early hours of saturday morning installing all my design software...
(My findings...)
  The above shows a chunk taken out of the new hardrive, if my calculations are again correct, a quite big chunk of... 19GB, leaving me with 153GB left of free space.
I then loaded on my photos
  The above shows that my photos all 1770 of them on one SDcard took up 2GB of hardrive....A guesstimate is i probably have around the same amount on my other SD card so once that is loaded then guesstimate of 4GB (give or take) for photos installed onto Drive E.
Questions i am left with is-
*- Why the big amount of hardrive taken for solely vista?
*- Is it worth having a hardrive already taken via this big vista installation before you load any software?
*- Would a Mac computer have this much taken from a hardrive?
*- Is the design world and it's software not aimed at the 32bit computer anymore?
*- Adobe software has been aimed more at the 64bit for some time now, but why?...
Maybe it is worth going back to my 64bit laptop and keeping that for solely design work...I did used to but found i was sitting in front of my desktop more and more..For now all is calm, my hardrive has loads of space, but i can only assume has the design software adds more features, more updates, then this will all add to my space on my new hardrive...and be back in the 'red' again.
Am a happy little bunny for now...  Take 1 boss, 3 girls and my first 6 months...Time has gone so fast since i literally fell through my new familys front door, the rooms looked so big, the garden HUGH, the voices from people frightened me, the doorbell had me running away, i was soon to learn that 'boss i was not' and THE BOSS was not a nipping toy,( great to do first thing in the morning when she wasn't expecting it though) and these 3 girls where my pulling and tugging toy how i loved to nip their ankles has they walked past me....Oh the fun i have.
(My first day)
 It didn't last!
My boss soon taught me what the word NO! meant,...
NO! to any food that wasn't of dog varitey
NO! to picking up shoes...of any sort.
NO! to nipping anything that said the word 'OUCH' or cryed..
NO! to trying to jumping on the sofa...and the beds where off limits totally!...oh i loved the comfort of the bosses bed
NO! to pulling or chewing clothes, towels, toys other than my own, ...and the list went on, till that word NO! i heard less and less.
(Me with little one)
 Whilst learning the word NO! and it's meaning i had 'playtime', with just me and the boss. I wasn't sure at first what i was supossed to do, the ball was too big for my mouth, but yet i was to watch has it was thrown or rolled, then go over to it and....wait i think. I prefered the ankle nipping game with the girls personaly!
These games soon turned into a daily routine.
Mornings- 'Play and learn' with the boss... (she learnt, whilst i played)
After dinner- 'play and learn' with the boss...(see above)
Evenings- 'Playtime in the garden' with every kid from near and far...my favourite game of 'all fall down' when i chased them was soon to be added to the NO! list.
(Me playing 'all fall down' with one of my victims)
 At 3 months old i was too learn that these 3 girls that played, and let me chase them, made strange noises when i nipped their ankles where to become my bosses too...
I started to look forward to these little games, each of the games was different, one would be a game of 'sit' then 'paw' and then i would get my toy thrown....and sometimes, if i did it right, a special treat.
Another was learning that where the food is kept i was not allowed, ...nasty they was too me, they would slam the door shut and say NO! sharply when i went towards the fridge.
Little one was fun with her learning games , i think over the months me and little one have become close friends..I like her games of 'sit' 'wait' 'paw' has she bends down for my paw i eat the treats out of the little holder she holds before she can stand back up. She giggles, and i like it when little one giggles, If i spin around and around she giggles even more and falls on her bum, then i can give her lots of my wet kisses.
Along with learning how to come up the stairs, i also taught the boss that us dogs have bounderies, a stairgate that stops us going down since day 1, when opened and told...no, bribbed via treats to then go down, we dogs will still see has a bounderie...untill it is taken away!
I was soon to meet more of my new family and before i knew it i had this new name of 'GrandDoggy'...I guess it only right that the 3 girls be her grandchildren then i should be her new 'GrandDoggy'...and of course she should spoil me more than them, has i am more sweeter and fluffyier.
(Me having a cuddle with my new nanny and letting her know what i will do if i don't get lots of treats from her)
 At 4 months my learning became learning and less playing, and where did my treats disappear to?!
I suddenly wasn't allowed to make mistakes, The boss would say NO! and make me do it again till i got it right, then and only then when i had that 'sit' so i knew what to do before she asked, gave 'paw', would i get my toy. But wait a minute another two new words had slipped in...'leave' and 'wait', of which i thought if i looked long enough with my head on the side, giving her the 'you talking to me' look, then she would drop that act....she didn't, and i didn't get my toy so quick anymore either.
(That look is similar to this one)...
 I got a game for her to play first though!- It's called, 'you catch me , you can have my toy and make me wait for it'...The boss put a stop to my game by ignoring me!...So ok, back to the bosses game of making me wait...The boss is a spoil sport!#
My first walk out with my new family was fun, i loved being on my new chocker lead, I had already learned from when the boss walked me to the vets there was nothing to be scared off in this new big world, I don't like the park much, the girls get to play whilst i have to sit and watch...
 I like the boss giving me ice-cream afterwards, worth the wait ...
 At 5 months my daily learning was not just in the house or garden it was now outside during walks too, i had some new words thrown into the daily games, Words such has 'here' 'find' and 'down'.
'sit' and 'wait' was no longer just for my toy to be thrown. I had do now learn to 'sit' at kerbs, 'wait' to be told by the boss to cross!. The boss had to learn that i am one protective dog over my family, the boss either lets me go in front and walk next to little one, so i can look back every so often and make sure middle one and older one are still following...orelse i drag her to get to the front!
I don't think the boss was too pleased with my stunt of i can take on the world when with the girls....including lorrys, buses, vans, tractors and anything else with speed!!... I soon got a new name around the block of.... 'SUICIDE ON A LEAD'!
I have my 'madness' momments too, the boss tells me i am naughty, but if it gets the girls giggling then it has to be fun...right?!
(Who shrunk the catflap)...
    The boss a week ago bought me a new coat, i keep it on, although the boss has been told not too...I like it from the minute i sat to let her fit me into it, only thing i don't like about it is i can now no longer take on my 'big toys with speed' whilst out walking with the girls. Although the name 'SUICIDE ON A LEAD' i just cannot shake off...
(Me with my new coat)...
 Now i am 6 months i have found that dogs that once growled or barked at me, now move out of my way,..people don't stop to pet me in the street so much, of which the boss seems to be happier with!...The kids from near and far no longer came around to be my ankle nipping victims...the little boy across the road runs away from me, when before he would come and play.
The garden and house became 'MY GARDEN and 'MY HOUSE'', where anyone, including the neighbour came to close i would make sure the boss knew they was there and that i was there too, ,...Anyone comes the door i bark untill the boss arrives at the door then i sit waiting to see who is stood the otherside, even the girls i let the boss know are awake during the night.
The girls stopped playing with me...So now i have to take my toy to them and drop it to let them know i want to play. Play times are more.... just me and the boss now...!
I have just gotten too big for the girls, untill they grow, they like going for walks with me has now i have learnt what 'NO!' 'sit', 'paw', 'here' and 'wait' mean, i am allowed to run free off my lead with the girls, I only know what the word 'down' means when playing, am still to work out what 'down' means when people come to pet me, ... and the word 'leave' i am still to get fully, I remember how to do it sometimes...Have learnt so much in the 4months i have been with my new family.
I wonder what is next to learn...!
 6/1/2009 On a more happier and not so crazyier note...This morning i thought was going to be 'one of those days', It started with me taking the girls to school, has they have been off for a week, i decided to say naff to the neighbour and continue to do has i was before, leaving Solitaire..
Has we walked away from our front door Solitaire was crying, and that turned into barking, i stood still with the girls for a few minuttes..just listening.
Noticing the lovely neighbour the otherside to me i have out in her front garden, i decided that maybe the best option was to ask the neighbour if whilst i took the girls to school she could just listen out and see if Solitaire continues to bark or not. She thankfully said 'off course' and off i went on the school run with the girls.
On my return, i walked towards my neighbour to be greeted with offer of a coffee. I accepted with that feeling off 'oh, the dog went nutts' in my stomach has i followed her into her house.
Turns out to my relief that Solitaire within 10mins stoppedbarking...was totally quiet!
Whilst enjoying neighbours coffee and talking about her grandchildren, ...my mum and dad,.. her garden, my garden, neighbour asks if i was ok, so i explained what i had done with the note and how that had escalated, and could escalate more and i wasn't too sure what to do.
Turns out that lovely neighbour next door has known neighbour who was complaining about Solitaitre husband since he was in nappys, subsequently lovely neighbour knows ALL about him and his wife...I get the story of how they both met, and the rows they cause wherever they live.
I left lovely neighbours house alittle shocked on hearing how one women can live in 3 houses around one village and cause so many rows, intimidation of many sorts with many people, including stand up rows in the street, not speak to her own mum and dad, and the reason that solitaire is barking is probably because neighbour with her 'past housing list' is never in and when she is she provokes Solitare on purpose has the neighbour is wanting to move AGAIN..only this time to a 4 bed house...(This will be to accomadate yet ANOTHER adoptive kid, and so claim MORE money)! Personally...i better not pass comment!
Shortly after getting back home, bundling washing into machine, making a brew and sitting down to listen to the quietness, the birds chirrping and just the whole 'me' time, ...out comes neighbour who complained!...
She starts her provoking off with throwing pegs into peg basket (must of been up dam early to get her washing out)...Solitaire strangely, did nothing!
She then goes onto call and feed the rabbit...Solitaire has a bark, i say NO! and follow that with 'ENOUGH'...Solitaire stops, has a groan at me and lays down under the table..
She then proceeds to let her dog out, who barks, she tells her dog to shut up, it barks more, and then takes the cover off rabbit hutch, so neighbour then starts shouting at her dog, and locks it back into whichever room has the echo in her house where the dog starts to bark and cry...Solitaire goes nutts!!
I do what a mate said to try, and that was throw a ball for Solitaire, take her attention off what is going on next door, and see if it works'...It does!
 Neighbour then moves onto throwing her kids toys into somewhere, a toy box maybe??!..by this time Solitaire is layed down again under the table,
Next she does the washing up, opens her upstairs windows ..Nothing comes from Solitaire..
Following this with taking a rug outside and banging it against her wall..turning the vacume cleaner on, and shouting at her dog to 'get down' and get in its bed'...Still Solitaire does nothing..
Neighbour then goes onto sweep up her paving slabs, and i can only assume that has most of her tryed efforts to provoke the dog to go nutts at her failed, Solitaire didn't bother, then her last attempt in provoking was to go to her bin...Solitaire went nutts!..and i left her too!!!
Just has neighbour had decided that maybe she 'should give it up' and all went quiet again, my doorbell rang, Solitaire barked to let me know. ..A women from the Housing Association stood there, she had come around to let me know she had recieved my letter letting them know i had a dog, (i left my phone number off it) ..and also with new tenancy agreement for me to sign in her hand. I asked her to come around the back.
Solitaire barked at the women has i let her in the gate...not one word from neighbour!...i then put Solitaire in the house shutting the door on her, No barking from Solitaire the whole 15-25mins the lady was in the garden.
I have my other part of fencing behind the patio bench being sorted, the new drive being chased up, and was told in open hearing of provoking neighbour, who by this time was outside but not doing anything, that i was lucky to get 6ft fencing put up, as usually it is chicken wire type stuff...LUCKY MOI EH! **SITS HERE WITH A SMILE ON MY FACE***
The lady then goes onto the dog situation, not sure if provoking neighbour reported Solitaire to landlord, but anyway has the lady brought it up, i let her finish and knowingly open hearing off provoking neighbour i said 'i actually called the police for advice..they are not interested but advised me to get signs, they gave me enviromental health number, who passes me onto dog warden who basically says they are not interested in a dog that is warning the neighbour from property, only dogs that are left all day and evening' Lady agrees and agrees with signs being put up front and back to let others know....Suddenly the sweeping starts back up again from provoking neighbour, i let the lady out of the gate and continue enjoying the peace and quiet, with the thoughts of actually am glad she came around has not only has she entered my back garden and seen for herself how Solitaire reacts, she has also seen how she is when locked indoors...
Picking the girls up from school i get stopped by a parent who has 'been told' about the whole situation with provoking neighbour and Solitaire...Her advice tell her too F@@ OFF. i get the same story from this parent has i got this morning from my lovely neighbour, only alittle added on the end of, 'provoking neighbour has a screw loose and is struggling to keep the 2 boys she adopted'...i pass no comment!
Drops my older one off at her private tutor to be told Solitaire news has made front page headlines there also, and it is from her i find out alittle bit extra about provoking neigbour and how she stirs up trouble with neighbours so the Housing Association have no choice but to move her,...
Provoking neighbour has one hell of a problem in this case,...Has this girl rises above it!!
And who's dog was it at 1645ish barking in the garden, when apparent next door neighbour but one is on nights and 'trying to sleep'...The provoking neighbours dog, Who when provoking neighbours husband says 'alright' to her he gets a gruff 'hello' in return back....where has me, i got her at my door but hey oh!!
What ever happened to that weekday half hour of 'Neighbours,..everybody should have good neighbours, with alittle understanding' ...lol On a more happier..., more crazier note...And i have (well friday) had my new patio table + chairs delivered... Something for me to be happy about
although minus 1 chair has some numpty has either drilled the slot to far down, or i have one side upside down...will see weds when bro no 1 graces me with his presence which of those are correct.
 ....Solitaire likes it anyway :-)..although bro no 1 may not when i slight mention i need another 3 slabs laying...only reason i haven't till writing this is because the thought of having to clear the mud mess he leaves is errr one i would rather not think of.On a more crazier note...
I may of provoked..(unintentionally)...maybe even caused a war to be developing between myself and the dam neighbours!
Has we all know, or those who have dogs and probably those of you that don't will know too, dogs bark, it's a well known fact eh..?
Way way way back ...even further than that, before i got solitaire, said neighbour heard the girls shouting the words 'we're getting A PUPPY''...and they went and got one, about a week after we got solitaire, although there dog is 2 weeks older.
All was quiet in both houses from said puppies for weeks, maybe the first 6-8 weeks, then they learnt to bark!...Neighbours pup started the barking off at all hours day and night...of which i ignored, although at 2300, i did pass comment to mum..dad..bro no 1 and any other mate that was on the end of the phone, something along the lines of 'oh, next doors dog is barking again' Am sure next door didn't hear it has i was in my house.
Anyways..
When mum had the stroke i was up the hospital 2-3 times a week, We got solitaire 4th feb so this would of been around a month after we got her, nobody complained about the dog barking!!!
Course neighbour next door left her dog whilst she went out...her dog barked, and barked, even in the street her dog barked.
I ignored it on the principle of 'my dog barks too'
Neighbour about a week and half ago, went out leaving her dog 'home alone' in a kitchen..or somewhere in a room in that house! The neighbours dog had gone from barking to howling, i presume it was left in the kitchen has the howling was made worse by the echo..I thought i was doing the neighbouring thing by putting a polite note through her door basically saying 'This is what your dog is doing when you are out'... I would want the neighbour to do the same if it was Solitaire.
Around half hour later said neighbour returns, i am upstairs and i hears her bellow 'WELL HER DOG BARKS''!!!...I went around with the sole intention of politelysorting this out, to have said neighbour say 'I DON'T WANT TO KNOW' and slams the door shut....HUH??
 How a polite note can escalate!..
Few days later, i think it was Thursday just gone, 2205ish i let Solitaire out in the garden to go the toilet, not sure if the sheep in the field set her off barking or the teenagers out on the front, but something did..Has i am quieting Solitaire down to a slight 'gruff' said neighbour opens her upstairs window and shouts down to me ''SHUT THAT DAM DOG UP ORELSE I AM CALLING THE POLICE, I HAVE KIDS IN BED ASLEEP HERE, MANDIE'...I appologize following that on with the dog is going the toilet!...neighbour slams her window shut!
Not knowing where i stand with this issue i decides to call the police myself for advice...
Police tell me it isn't there issue and if said neighbour was to call and report Solitaire, they would tell the neighbour that the dog could possibly be protecting her home ( i have to buy dog signs for the house) and tell her to call Enviromental Health... Policewomen gives me there number to call for further advice!
Enviromental health- Man on switchboard who i explained the situation to, replys with 'he has a dog, his dog barks at all that pass his window, did i leave the dog for hours?..'no'!..'Then said neighbour doesn't have a leg to stand on'....Although i do leave Solitaire for hours when visiting mum twice a week, oh geeez!!! Can you see what is coming?...
Enviromental health man puts me onto the Dog Warden...i explains situation about said neighbour, He asks 'did i lock the dog in the garden and go to bed'? No!..'Have i been at work all day leaving the dog?, NO!, 'Then if neighbour was to put in a report, it would be noted, but really they wouldn't be interested has their interest is in dogs that are left for hours, or dogs that are left in a room for hours, and also looking at the situation said neighbour provoked the dog to bark more by putting her head out her window!
I say thank you for the advice, and sit wondering, but alittle more relaxed in the mind knowing that the neighbour really cannot do anything about me letting the dog out in the garden for the toilet. And when all said if she was to report to the Housing Association they would probably tell her ' It is against my tenancy, and neighbours to be letting my dog go the toilet in the house'..
Have passed the neighbour in the street since and no words exchanged!..
Above escalates even further...!
Since the sun has been out and i have spent more time in the back garden enjoying not just the sun but my new patio furniture with the girls, i have noticed the following things with Solitaire..
*- Neighbour comes out to her bin (which is against her fence but overlooks my back garden)...Solitaire goes nutts!
*- If neighbour is out in her garden...Solitaire will go nutts!
*- Anyone coming to the fence overlooking my back garden...Solitaire goes nutts!
*- Neighbour throws her washing pegs into peg basket...Solitaire will go nutts!
*- Neighbour shouts at her kids and they cry...Solitaire barks!
*- Kids playing in the street, noises outside including the sheep in the field right at the back of our house, or the local teenagers playing with their new toys (motorbikes) at 0130 and stopping right outside my house to chat with friends...Solitaire barks at the first 2, and barks and growls at the last.
*** Nutts= barking, growling, with hair on her neck standing up ocassionaly***
Today doing what i have done for the past 3 days, sitting outside with the girls, Solitaire has been barking at one, or many of the above things. Around 1730ish a knock at the door, Solitaire barks to let me know, opens the door to a women, don't know who she is, (at this point) but the women had come round to do the neighbourly thing and let me know that 'Solitaire is barking which is keeping her awake and she is working nights, 2200 she starts'..I explain to her why Solitaire is barking, (the sheep) appologize, explain to her i keep telling her 'NO' when she barks at the sheep but it seems to register 10 mins afterwards and say to her we are taking Solitaire for a walk in 10mins.
All is hunky dorey i thought!....
We come back from our hour and half walk with Solitaire, i puts tea in the oven whilst that is cooking shower girls. Solitaire when i put the tea outside on the table for us all is layed down outside all is quiet, i feed Solitaire and she lays back down afterwards..
We all sit down to eat tea, around 2030ish, it was lovely sitting out there whilst the sun went down, laughing and joking about Solitaires first time off her lead and how 'silly mummy' was worrying about losing the dog when she needed off, ...about 10 mins later said neighbour decides to come into her back garden and throw her pegs into the peg basket...Solitaire went nutts!
Just has i calm her down from that, said neighbour shouts up to her husband...next thing said neighbours husband is walking down the steps (that we share to get to our back gardens if not using our own back doors) with a rabbit hutch above his head...Solitaire goes nutts!
...and Solitaire continues to go nutts whilst the neighbour and her husband for the next half hour to 45 mins shouts a rabbit by name, then has to chase escaped rabbit around garden... By this time Solitaire was listening to not one word i said, she just continued to go nutts...We continued with our teas.
Remember the women who came my door?..the one i didn't know who she was but said she had to work nights? Well this is where she fits in...!
Solitaires barking turned into growling of the not nice kind, i turned around to see why and to tell Solitaire 'NO'! When i notice the women who came my door earlier walking down the steps at the side of the houses to help neighbour catch their rabbit....HAAaaa NOW i know where she lives and who she is, she lives next door but one to me, ajoining with the next door neigbour!.
Things start to fit together, i can suddenly see a note that was meant no other way than 'just to let neighbour know' going totally out of control!... I call my dad this evening to see what he says to do, his final answer!- Neighbour probably friday called up the police..who gave her the number for Enviromental Health...Who then passed her onto the dog warden, where said neighbour got 'no joy'...So said neighbour has then got next door but one to me involved via saying she works nights, If she works nights then why at 2030 is she out catching a rabbit???
MORALE OF THIS- Never think you are doing the right thing via being neighbourly, 9/10 times the neighbour will blow it into a mountain has big as Everest!!!
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